My rating: 4 of 5 stars
This was excellent! Just about everyone knows they have self-control issues, but this series of lectures not only explains why scientifically, but also gives ways to attack the problem based on lab tests. Just one example gives an idea. Since the Internet, we can shop all day and night which can be murder on the budget. It is the purchases at night that often are most problematic. The explanation is that practicing self control can actually be stressful, so after a long day of practicing it, we are worn out so the decisions about purchases can be made when our supply is depleted. The simple answer is to wait until morning to purchase something! I can't think of the times when I've gone on a website to see what is new and put a number of things in my shopping cart. Coming upon it at some later date, I have wondered why in the world I wanted some of those items.
The lectures also deal with how you can build your self-control muscles. Each time we resist something, we get better about it. The author advises "Implement Intentions – Takes your mind out of the middle of “Desire vs What you actually do.” You make a one step intention that only tackles one part of the goal. In this example, the author says to never purchase anything at night, but to wait until morning. My first intention was "When I am waiting for my coffee to warm, I will take the dishes out of the drainer." also "When I go from one room to another, I will tidy one thing." Those decisions are very easy but they help build the habit of self-control.
I agree with some criticism of some that the author's delivery isn't the best, so it only gets 4 stars, but the content is great. I'm glad this is an Audible book that I purchases because I plan to listen to it a lot!
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